Seminar on maternal care for the
child
Grateful to God for beautiful life
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Be great full for becoming a mother of a child.
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Your are participating in the creation of God.
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You have an identity as a mother to a child
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Your responsibility to look after the child and
family along with your husband.
What you can do to the child?
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Child should feel that you love the child,
though you’re words and the gestures.
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Don’t think child will understand, it matter a
lot to the child love and affection.
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While feeding milk sing a song and go around
introducing the nature, as if child understands your description- sun, moon,
stars, sky- animals- dog, cat, goat, and cow. A plants- tree, flowers, cripples
pond, relatives- friends, brothers, sisters and so on.
During toddler and while little
speaking:
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Let the child explore (be careful to protect
from fire, pond, road and risky things which can harm the child)
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Do not scold the child, nicely explain the
difficulties and control the child with patience and compassions
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Do not use the foul words either to scold or
express anger in front of child.
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Do not show your angry face- child should
remember you latter as smiling mother, lots of care and love.
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Don’t show your power or authority over the child—latter
the child will flash back to you and to others.
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Show your abundant love
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Motherhood is difficult yet do not give up the hope.
Law and the child
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Mother is a teacher to a child.
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Be a good teacher of love.
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Carefully train the child for toilet, bathing,
getting up from the sleep and noble manner in public.
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Engage the little fellow in little household
work
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Evaluate the child what is happening with
him/her.
Ideas and child:
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Tell the child appealing stories (story of love,
morality, relationship)
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Answer all the questions of the child.( some
times difficult to explain, but for time being make the fellow understand
that while the fellow grow he or she
will understand the consequences)
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Take a walk with the child around the house and
once again introduce-- sun, moon, stars, sky- animals- dog, cat, goat, and cow.
A plants- tree, flowers, cripples pond, relatives- friends, brothers, sisters
and so on.
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Teach the fellow how to talk and greet elders,
friends and others.
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It will make him understand the demand of the
family, society and at the same time education is done.
Inspiration and child:
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Tell the child story of leaders, kings, queens,
princess,( folk story)
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The more information you provide child has
capacity to listen and comprehend.
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After each story ask the little fellow
questions, whether he/ she remembers, do not force at the beginning.
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By the time child will be so much fond with
mother and father too. So the third person can not take way.
Discipline and child:
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According the age of the child make a rule for
the child, to follow every day life.
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Fixed the time for game, study, remaining at
home, doing some work with you.
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Allow the fellow to spent with his her friends
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Fix the time for watching TV, cinema,
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Morning and evening for study
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Make an arrangement for the prayer and so on if
you are a believer.
During the period of -Class (V-X):
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During this period carefully listen to the fellow;
it is important to pay attention.
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Make a notice; person is growing physically and
psychologically-needs and demands are different.
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Respect the person’s need and demand and
friendly confront if the situation with love.
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Check the person with whom he or she is Fridley
with.
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Increase the time for study morning and evening.
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Keep the particular time for games, watching TV.
All are needed for the over all growth of the child.
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Try to instruct morality and ethic through story
of good and evil.
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Allow the person to do work, which is the part
of the serving attitude, let the fellow learn hard work.
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Any family matters do not hide from the child.
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If it is all about sickness explain, let him/
her part of it, let him/her experience world of suffering.
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Latter if the child comes to know or sense,
fellow will hate you.
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Regarding festivals or joyful ceremony share
with the child; Let him experience the joy of the world.
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Regarding sex and marriage life or love affair
as the topic comes to the person handle them carefully.
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Nothing should make him or her worried about
life, otherwise later you will find difficult to handle the person.
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Fix a goal for the person to study, beside off
time, let the person go for, music, dance, and sports.
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At the same time do not ignore the topic “love
affair”
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Explain to him or her, love affair is good and
he or she is going to face the world of love very soon
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Make sure the fellow should earn his/ her living
and met all the necessity of life, him self or her self and go for it and go
for love affair.( this is my logic, you convince the child the way you like)
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So the person knows the stand of the parents or
the family. Person is aware; what the stand of the family is.
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Similarly in a simple word inform the fellow regarding/having
sex (intercourse) is not good. After the marriage sex is done for pro-creating in
the family. If the person is following her/his friends for immoral sex life; the
study will get spoiled and live in immoral life. Here also person understand
the stand of the family.
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All the above mentions points are according to
the person’s needs and when the situation permits. It will differ person to
person and place to place. But the point is growing child should know what is
the stand of the parents and the family. Growing fellow should not say, no body
informed him or her. These are not absolute but as guide lines to make the
child more close to parents and the family.
Social affair:
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Take the growing person to the market places,
shops, cites, let him or her wider world.
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Don’t resist explaining positive and negative-
you as parents encouraging and supporting the fellow to face the world of
social living.
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Regarding, culture, festivals and fair of the
locality, including marriage and so on, take the growing child explain right
and left with the meaning full life. Do not ignore them, child will be crying
for those things.
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Do not scold the child in front of his/her
friends or elder, take the person side and explain the matter.
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By now child is mature and person need for
mature treatment. Person deserves that. Remember the person is not dead lock.
Threshold of (XI- College)
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Involve the fellow in decision making in the
family. Let him/her feel important.
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Besides study let the person contribute little
more in the family.
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Parents must behave like a friend, that family
bond person should feel.
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Always show hope and guidance, do not discourage
the person,
No guaranty but possibility:
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There will be lots of understanding in the
family
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Relation and bond of love is more powerful.
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Any body can’t get into the family—boy friends,
girl friends relatives.
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If it takes place that will be bearable and
understanding one.
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Person will not bring scandal over night or
leave the parents just like that.
Let us hope for
good family life with the children
