Marriage class

Marriage class

How do we understand life?

Culture

                Religion                         Language                             Art

                                                                                (Music, dance, making house)

                                                                                                                                                                      

Rule and relation of human beings:

v  Family

v  Rite of passages –

     i.        Janam Chatiar,

   ii.        Chacho Chatiar:

 iii.        Marriage:

 iv.        Death:

   v.        Bhandan

v  Village-

        i.            Majhi: ( The village head man)

      ii.            Paranic: (The deputy headman)

    iii.            JogMajhi( The over seer of the village moral)

    iv.            Godet( the village messenger)

      v.            Naike: ( the village priest)

    vi.            Kudam Naike: ( the assistant village priest)

  vii.            Pargana and disam Majhi:

viii.            Lo Bir Baisi:

v  Parish

     i.        Parish priest

   ii.        Bishop

 iii.        Pope

v  Panchayat

v  Police station

v  Education institution (school, colleges, universities)

v  Medical pharmacies (doctors, nurses)

Games:

 1. Hide and seek: (all hide and one of them search them one by one)

In our real life are we not doing the same?

While searching do we not having fear, excitement, doubts, helpless

 2.Jawai bahu, bapla: ( all of them make bride and bride groom, like children all present them how the marriage is down).

Two kinds of families: small and big:

     i.        Parents

   ii.        New couple

 iii.        Brothers and sisters

 iv.        Children

   v.        Relatives

 vi.        Friends

vii.        Enemies

viii.        Occupation

 ix.        Hospitals

   x.        schools

A.  Why do people live their parents?

B.   Why do they want to leave for new family house?

C.    Why people misunderstand one another?

D.  Why do people do not listen to each other?

E.   Who is responsible for breaking the relationship?

F.   Which one do you like? Small or big family

G.   What is your opinion about privacy?

Relation between husband and wife till death:

1)    Covenantal relation of marriage as husband and wife

2)    Two friends male and female

3)    Sharing as brother and sisters

4)   Caring as mother and son

5)    Supporting as father and daughter

Creation and universal law:

Ø  Sun, moon, starts all follow the rule of the universe.

Ø  Earth moves around the sun.

Ø  Moon moves around the earth.

Ø  Around the sun there are nine planets moving,

Ø  There are many stars bigger then our sun.

Ø  There are many galaxies.

Ø  There are many milky ways.

Ø  How possible all is got stuck in the sky?

Ø  Why don’t they fall on earth?

Role conflict in the family:

§  Husband between wife and mother

§  Wife between husband and mother-in-laws

§  Mother between son and daughter-in-laws

§  Both are human beings

§  Both are near and dear once

§  Both are sweets and sour

§  Both are important

§  Both need balance of relationship

§  Both has great role in the family

§  Both needs clothing and shelters

3. santal world of supernatural being Beings:

1) Universal dwelling  

A] Thakur jiu: - He is the only one Supreme Being.  People also address Him as :-

• ---Siv’ cando [ Bonga (sun God) :

[sin’ ren Bonga- sinbonga]- means- light God of who is assigned by God; comes at day time.

• ---Nindo cando [Bonga] (Moon God)

[Candoren Bonga cando bonga] means- night God that is Moon light who is assigned by God.

He is the creator of earth, sky, wind, water, trees, plants, beast, bird, insect and finally human beings. He only brings and takes away.

B] Maraburu (great spirit):- Thakur jiv constituted Maranburu (great mountain) as the guarden to first parents.

C] Bongas- (malevolent and benevolent)

i) sin’ bonga

ii) Bir bonga( the spirit of the forest)

iii) buru bonga( the spirit of the mountain)

2) Local or village levels

iv) pargana bonga--( the spirit of the chief of the reign)

v) sima bonga--( the spirit guarding the boundary of the village)

vi) Jaher era--( the lady of the grove the earth mother)

vii) Gosai- era --( the spirit of the sister of the Jaher era)

viii) More ko –- turiko bonga ( spirit of the five six)

ix) Majhi bonga--( the spirit of the village headman

3) In the family

x) Orak’ Bonga--( the spirit in a dwelling place)

a]Dula bonga

b] than bonga

c] kudam bonga

d] sati bonga

e] golabonga

f]barge bonga

Keeping the biblical back ground in our mind that there are twelve sons of Jacob later known as Israel. His sons bear each one name for twelve different tribes in the history of Hebrew. Like wise in the life of santal there are twelve clan bearing the name and each one having totem .clan Name ---       Totem  ---   status--- Element

 1.Hasdakk  ---     swan    --- adviser --- water. land, earth and heaven.

2. Murmu   ---     antelope   ---  priest---           land

3. kisku    ---        kingfisher   ---  king---        heaven and earth

4. Hembrom---    betel nut    ---    nobility and truthfulness---     earth(upper)

5. Marndi   ---     weed    ---       traders---            earth(low)

6. Soren    ---    constelation pleiades --- solder---  heaven(upper)

7. Tudu     ---     owl      ---       musician---         heaven

8. Baske   ---    stale rice   ---   cook---            earth

9. Besra      ---      hawk    ---                            heaven

10. Bedea   ---     sheep    ---                           land

11.Pauria      ---     Pigeon   ---                         heaven

12. chore        ---             Lizard       ---              earth

Restriction in marriage between certain clans:

The reason lie in the nature of the totems and the elements they are connected with.

In the first place, marriages are forbidden between water (Hasdak, [swan]) and land (Murmu. [Antelope]).

It is restricted between lower heaven(kisku [kingfisher]) and lower earth(Marandi[weed])

And also upper earth(Hembrom[betel nut] and upper heaven(Soren [constelation Pleiades] )---

Secondly marriage prohibited three heavenly birds-Owl, hawk and pigeon)[Tudu, Besra andPauria] the totems also define the relationship between the consumer and consumed. Rice is eaten by the Pigeon who is the prey of the hawk along with the Lizard is also hunted by the owl. Therefore, initially the Chores did not marry any one with Besra and Tudu. These restrictions are not followed any more and marriages take place between all clan members.